It is sad, and a little pathetic, I know. But I really miss my husband when he is gone. He is training out in New York City this week and I am stuck here in Oregon. Things could be worse. He could be gone for more than just a week. Or he could be clear around the other side of the world where our scheduled would be so outta whack we couldn’t sit on our computers at night and IM back and forth. Yeah, yeah. Whatever. I still miss him.
Truth be told, for an “old married couple” we really do spend a lot of time together. We carpool to work, we usually go out to lunch together, and then we spend the evening hanging out. We also IM or text back and forth through out the day. And I like it that way. Some people have said (I know who you are, and I know you are reading this) we spend too much time together. But I disagree. It really just works for us. He is my best friend and truly the one person who I never get sick of being around. Isn’t that exactly what a spouse is supposed to be anyway? The one person you picked to travel through life with? I like to bounce things off of him. (He has saved my butt on more than one occasion by making me think before I act.) I like his opinion on things. And more than anything, I like to share all the little things with him. Things that wouldn’t matter to anyone but us. But when he is gone, I don’t have any of that.
Sure, I have lots of great friends and co-workers who try to pick up the slack when he is gone. Apparently I am not allowed to spend an evening alone when Sim is out of town because I have plans just about every night this week and co-workers taking me out to lunch each afternoon. I do really appreciate that and it does help the time pass faster.
Sadly, the only thing that really does make me feel a little better is knowing he is going through the same thing. When he goes to conferences, he has way too much fun. He is surrounded by friends; they party and do crazy things all night and then geeky things all day. But when he is off training, once 5 o’clock hits, he just goes back to his hotel and hangs out in his room. I try to get him to go out and explore the city he is in (if it is worth exploring) and try to make the most of his traveling. But he won’t. He says he would never do those things without me. And I am kinda glad. Because knowing he misses me just as much as I miss him means he really is the perfect man for me.
You guys are too sweet! Phil and I feel the same way about each other. We would much rather spend time together than with anyone else. Of course my pregnancy hormones change things up a bit. I almost kicked him out of bed last night! I guess that lasagna caused some wicked nastiness! Other than that, I call him at work at least once a day, and he calls me during his lunch if I don’t call. We email each other. And then theirs the "Hey honey I’m on my way home. What do you want for dinner?" call every night. After Jacob goes to bed, we cuddle on the couch and watch TiVo and eat pretzels. Then we go to bed and talk for a while. He is my best friend. Even though things have changed dramatically since Jacob came along, there is still no one I’d rather spend time with.
Now I need to go change a poopy diaper…fun fun…
Okay Okay, now You have BOTH made me CRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are wonderful and I consider you my best friend as well. I would not rather hang out with anyone.
And I walked back from the office to my hotel todays in a row so you cant say I didnt see the city. I even took slightly different paths 🙂
I cant wait to come home and hang out with you some more. This whole messaging thing is just not all its cracked up to be. Although I will take it over nothing any day!
I love you
Sweet. And I think you’re right. I don’t think a married couple can really spend too much time together. Like you said, that’s why you married them right? To spend your lives together and share every little thing. Talk about spending a lot of time together…Barney and I work, live, and play in the same house! But don’t worry, we get out too. 🙂