It Takes A Village

I was just watching a TiVoed segment from yesterdays Today show (I don’t normally record the Today Show but there was an interview with Daniel Radcliff about the Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix movie that I wanted to watch) that mentioned how the majority of mothers are overstressed and therefore unhappy. Well I am pleased to report on this issue, I remain a minority. And it is in no small part due to the amazing people in my life.

I am a firm believer in the old adage that “it takes a village to raise a child.” While on day to day matters from diaper changes to middle of the night feedings, I may be the representing member of the village, the majority of the time I have help, or at the very least, support. I am surrounded by wonderful people who really step up to make my life what it is and I just want to take a moment to that them for all that they do.

Thank you to my best friend, Heather, who has been there for me going on 15 years. She is always there whether I need a coffee break, a trip to the zoo, or just some time to vent.

To my girlfriends, Megan, Kimberly, and Kerry “with a K,” who support me in my Harry Potter addiction and are willing to talk for hours on end theorizing about the series, critiquing the movies, or even discussing the merits of Sirius Black’s butt.

To Carole, Chelle, Jen, and the mothers in my playgroups who remind me that I am not alone in this and are always there with a lovely anecdote, some motherly advice or even just a friendly smile.

To Freedom, a friend and co-worker, who, asking for nothing in return, offered to babysit Ana yesterday so Simeon and I could watch the latest Harry Potter movie.

To Megs, who gets me out of the house, keeps me sane, and never fails to bring a smile to Ana’s face.

To my family who are always there when I need them, are willing to do anything for me in a moments notice, and who never fail to stop in for a welcomed visit.

To Simeon, who supports me in all that I do, loves me unconditionally, and allows me to have the perfect life that we have created together. For being the kind of husband who never forgets a birthday or anniversary, who always puts me first, and who never forgets to put his dirty clothes in the laundry. For being the kind of father who never misses one of Ana’s doctor appointments, who takes off from work early to watch a Baby & Me swim class, and who is always willing to let me “tag out.”

To my beautiful baby girl, Ana, who has changed my life in the most amazing way, who never fails to make me laugh, and is the first person who had actually caused me to cry tears of happiness.

I love you all and am so happy you are a part of my life, a part of my village. Thank you.

A Letter: Seven Months

Dear Ana,
Today you turn seven months old, which may not seem all that exciting to you, but it is very exciting for your father and I. Actually we are pretty much constantly excited because over the last month you have had so many firsts. The one that impacts our lives the most has been the addition of eating solid foods. Rather than just nurse you for every meal, I now have to plan ahead. I set you in your Bumbo, with a bib around your neck and a spoon in your hand, and prepare your baby puree and cereal. But rather than being an inconvenience, it is actually the highlight of my day. I love watching your reactions to the various tastes and textures. So far you have eaten rice cereal, avocados, bananas, sweet potatoes, applesauce and prunes. You are still not sure about this whole food thing, and spend a large portion of the meal gagging…which I will gladly take over spitting or throwing up any day! As long as you keep opening your mouth for more, and reassuring me with a smile from time to time, we are going to keep right on trying new foods.



About two weeks ago you and I started a Baby & Me swim class, which at your age isn’t so much about swimming as introducing you to the water. We sing songs, splash around, and play with fun water toys. At first you were a little skeptical, but once you realized there were other babies and toddlers in your class you were very excited. You spend the majority of the time kicking and splashing around as you watch all the other children around you.



As a result of your swim class, I have noticed your increased confidence with water in general. You now play in the water during bath time where as before you merely sat still in the water while we cleaned you up. Now we have toys to keep you entertained–and keep the bath water in the tub and not all over my kitchen! But your favorite part is when we rinse you off because you constantly try to drink all the water we spray at you. Your Daddy lets you take occasional sips and we watch you wiggle and shake with all the excitement.



Your bottom front teeth are totally visible now, and while we got a slight reprieve from the torment of teething for a couple weeks, the obvious signs are back once again. You have an abundance of drool, spontaneous shrieks of discomfort and the most obvious sign of all, you chew or bite on everything. You love chewing on your Daddy’s cold pop can or my water glass more than anything else.



In the last couple weeks you have really gotten good with your hands. I have to keep a really close eye on you because you are suddenly able to grab just about anything within a couple feet radius. I think you also view my hands as an extension of your own because as soon as I pick something up you instantly stick out your hand for me to give it to you.



Every night as part of your bedtime routine you read a story with your father. But only recently have you actually started showing signs of favoritism in your reading material. In particular you enjoy the Fluffy, Snuggly, Cuddly Baby Animals book. It is a touch and feel book we bought to teach you how to gently pet animals. You love the book so much you have taken to “reading” your book alongside Daddy outside of our nightly rituals. Apparently you inherited both your parents love of reading.



On two separate occasions in the last month you have been with a babysitter. That is, someone other than your mother or father. While it was important to help you adjust to being around someone other than your parents, it was equally important for your father and I to go out on a date. Even if all we did was go out to dinner and ended up talking about you the majority of the time anyway. One thing we did discover on both of these occasions was your You-Are-Not-My-Mama cry. Now I would never in a million years wish tears upon you, but a tiny part of me was happy that you missed me. You wanted me. As soon as I picked you up and wrapped you in my arms I saw the smile spread across your face and you knew all was right in the world again. Just know, my sweet little girl, I will always come home to you and I will do everything in my power to keep that beautiful smile on your face.


All my love,
Mama

First 4th of July

Ana’s first 4th of July went wonderfully. Sure we had to give one of the dogs a sedative (Molly, naturally) and I wasn’t able to fall asleep until the last residual fireworks trailed off well after midnight, but Ana wasn’t disturbed at all. In fact it got so loud in our neighborhood at one point that Simeon was sure our baby monitor wasn’t working and went to check on Ana just to find her sleeping soundly in her crib. What a perfect little angel.



But before she slipped off into her peaceful slumber, we took her outside to share with her the simple pleasure of fireworks. Well, sparklers anyway, because really who are we kidding? Sparklers are the best part of the 4th of July anyway, right? She was a little skeptical but kept her cool despite the smoke drifting into her face. You can see all the pictures here.

When Daddy is Away…

“When Daddy is away, the girlies will play” is our motto this week. Sim is teaching in San Jose, so Ana and I are trying to keep ourselves busy. We decided to kick off the week with a trip to the coast. Since the last time I went to Seaside I got in trouble for not visiting Carole, we made that our first stop.



Carole and I met for lunch in Astoria then went back to her house to let the kiddos “play.” This pretty much entailed Ana pulling Michael’s hair or ears while Carole and I ran interference. Michael was really good about it and smiled and cooed the whole time.



He was even happier once we set them on their tummy’s and Ana couldn’t grab him anymore. My daughter is all about the hands. I am in so much trouble when she becomes a teenager. Oy vey.



Can I just take a second to tell you what a beautiful little boy Michael is? Because the pictures on Carole’s site, while totally adorable, do not do this baby justice. See for yourself:



Does that face not just melt your heart? You can see all the pictures of Ana and Michael’s first meeting here. Beware of all the cuteness!

More about the rest of our adventures, including Ana’s first Baby Swim lessons, later. Stay tuned!

Happy Father’s Day!

Simeon,
Thank you so much for giving me the most beautiful daughter in the entire world and in doing so transforming yourself into a wonderful and adoring father. Each and every day I am so happy that Ana is lucky enough to have you as the man she will call Daddy. We love you so much. Happy father’s day, pie!



Oh and I just wanted to share a wonderful
little video that I think really says it all.

Have a safe and happy father’s day everyone!

Ana’s First Food

I wanted Ana’s first meal to be fun so I let her play with the spoon to get familiar with how it felt in her mouth.



It was going great. My plan was working. Ana loved the spoon…



…until her Mama went and covered it with food.



She even tried to help me hold the spoon. Or maybe she was trying to push it away. Hard to tell at this point.



Turns out food is entirely overrated. I am sure my daughter is wondering why we would subject her to such cruelty.



While we are wondering how many times we have to keep torturing her with the food until she actually likes it.

You can see all the pictures of our adventure with cereal here. I will try to get the video uploaded tomorrow. Stay tuned.

6 Month Doctors Appointment

Ana had her six-month doctors appointment today. Here are her stats from the appt:

Height: 27″ (85th percentile)
Weight: 15 lbs 12.5 oz (50th percentile)
Head: 43 cm (70th percentile)

Ana seems to be following a very nice growth pattern as all of her measurements are all in relatively the same percentile as her last appointment. She also had her third round of several immunizations today. She was not happy about this in the least and promptly turned very red and huge crocodile tears rolled down her chubby cheeks. Poor kiddo! But aside from the emotional distress, the appointment went very well. She is meeting all her developmental milestones and holding firm in her refusal to spend any long period of time on her tummy, but the doctor says there is nothing to worry about. I gotta say one thing for my daughter, she is definitely consistent!

On a very exciting note, we were given the green light on introducing Ana to solid foods. We will be starting with rice cereal (there is a lower allergic reaction rate with rice versus wheat) then gradually adding in pureed fruits (apples, pears, etc.) and vegetables (carrots, squash, etc.) and finally meats (chicken and turkey). I just have to add that the thought of pureed meat makes my stomach turn. Blech! Typically we will wait 2-3 days between each new food to watch out for any allergic reactions. I plan to make all her food myself, in an attempt to eliminate any unnecessary chemicals/preservatives, as well as help Simeon and I eat better ourselves. She will eat what we eat….just in a slightly different form, of course. Don’t worry, I will keep you all posted more on this adventure as it progresses. (Don’t forget to check back later for a video of her first feeding!) That is all there is to report until next time at her 9 month doctors appointment in September.

A Letter: Six Months

Dear Ana,
My sweet little monkey you are now six months old and we are having so much fun together! This month your firsts include camping, going to the park, sitting in the grass, and riding in your stroller without the car seat–just like the big girls do it. I know all mother’s say this, but the stage you are at now is my favorite. You are learning new things each and every day. So many things, in fact, it has become difficult to keep track. All I know is you continue to constantly amaze me.



Your latest milestone has been teething. I had recently started telling people you were teething when you were acting fussy, however I didn’t really believe it myself. I would prefer people to think you are a sweet baby and not allow a little outburst to tarnish your typically mellow personality. So you can imagine my surprise when I was letting you chew on my finger and I felt your first tooth. Actually, teeth, is more accurate. Without my really knowing it, you went and got your bottom two front teeth. Turns out you really were fussy because of teething!



You have also become very aware of everything around you and reach for things you want. It is so much fun to watch you intently examine everything you can get your hands on. Your favorite things, the things when you see them you instantly light up and reach for, include my water bottle, the TiVo remote (the colored buttons are the best), my cell phone, and each and every one of our pets.



You are mesmerized by the cats and dogs. You love to reach out and try to pet them. When I lay you on the floor to play, the dogs will lay on either side of you. Molly picks a spot close enough that she can excitedly lick you back when you tug on her ears. Ellie, on the other hand, will lay just out of your reach–close enough that she can watch over and protect you, but far enough away that you can’t actually touch her. But the cats have surprised me most of all. They actually let you pet them! Even when you “pet” them so vigorously that your tiny hand comes away filled with tufts of hair. I guess the cats understand sometimes love hurts.



In the last month you also started rolling over. Currently it is only from front to back. I know it was your sheer dislike of tummy time that brought on this new skill. It also makes me wonder if you will ever roll from back to front because I know you would never willingly put yourself into tummy time! I am sure you will be performing tricky acrobatics, or at the very least advanced yoga, before you voluntarily spend time on your stomach.



Hand in hand with rolling over has come sitting by yourself. If we set you down and pretend we aren’t watching you, you will sit unassisted for several minutes. However, if we noticeably look in your direction, or God forbid speak of your sitting up, you topple over. It is as if the words themselves knock you down. On the plus side, when you fall over forwards, you are quickly able to flip yourself over onto your back. You are perfectly content when you fall over backwards and look at us as if to say, “Nice! That’s just what I wanted!” Either way, it is highly entertaining to watch.



Not necessarily a milestone, but wonderful nonetheless is the fact that you have started giving kisses. Now these are not your typical slimy, wet baby kisses. Oh no. You give piranha kisses. You come at us open mouthed, like a hungry baby bird and chomp down on whatever gets in your path, be that my cheek, chin or even shoulder. But I don’t mind, as long as you are giving out kisses, I will always be there to accept them.


All my love,
Mama